What Happened? Have you ever woken to that horrible feeling of WHAT HAPPENED? You open your eyes, look at your car keys as if they are some foreign object (they are usually on the floor beside your pants, a party hat and a wad of credit card receipts) and wonder, “Oh, God… Did I drive?” Your mind […]
Category Archives: Sobriety
No man is an island, entire of itself… The Galloit Bank in the Exumas, The Bahamas I’m excited about today’s joint post with the Sober Señorita. Kelly Fitzgerald writes a great blog, and we’ve got a lot in common: we are sober; we both lived and drank in the Caribbean; we have both moved away from Paradise; […]
Here’s a sentence you’ll probably never hear anyone utter: I need to talk to someone about the fact I am addicted to apples; I hide them in my ankle boots and eat them when I’m all alone… Why is it we are only addicted to processed foods and drinks? And why do […]
I made that up. I have been accused of being a perfectionist by those who do not know me very well; the people who have not opened a drawer, or gotten close enough to notice the mustard stain on my lapel. I am actually a startling combination of flawlessness and havoc: the qualities that intrigue men […]
Something you don’t see every day… Recovering alcoholics shouting from the rooftops, “I QUIT DRINKING! I’M AMAZING!” I quit drinking!!! Think about that. I had a three bottle of wine a day habit that consumed my life, and I found a way to quit. Let’s not talk about how I quit drinking, or […]
That dot on the right is Fiona trying to find a patch of grass… All work and no play makes Mare a dull girl. All work and no play makes Mare a dull girl. All work and no play makes Mare a dull girl. All work and no play makes Mare a dull girl. […]
The beauty of seabirds, high above the garbage… In folklore, a sin-eater is a person who, through a ritual meal, takes on the sins of a household, often because of a recent death, absolving the soul and allowing that person to rest in peace. I am very much alive, but I am thinking this morning, of […]
Is Alcoholism a Disorder? And does it matter what handle we give it, as long as we know it’s not a choice? A few years ago I went to a psychologist. I was pretty much drunk the entire first year after my divorce and I was haphazard about my personal safety. It seemed that […]
This was happening while I was writing… Written at 1:00 A.M. I’m back in Georgia. There’s ice on the balcony, but the driveway is clear. My big fear was that I would have to park the car below the house and crawl up the drive with my belongings strapped to my back. Neighbor Bob […]
I am going to be writing a human interest column for Arbus Magazine. The inaugural article will be in Arbus’s March/April issue, and I am excited about the opportunity. When I submitted my article, my only concern was that I didn’t have an appropriate photograph to send with my bio. You’ve seen the photos of me on this blog, […]