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Huh. I Always Thought I HATED Musical Theater (till I Got Sober)…

Huh. I Always Thought I HATED Musical Theater (till I Got Sober)…

Huh. I Always Thought I HATED Musical Theater (till I Got Sober)…

This sobriety “thing” is a gas. After four years, I still learn something new about myself all the time. Not everyday, but frequently enough to surprise myself, and “myself” is one of my favorite subjects…

 

When you say “yes” because you like someone, even when you know you’re going to hate it…

Full disclosure – when my friend Cindy asked me if I wanted to go to the theater I wasn’t really listening to the details. The truth is, I do not like musical theater. At least I thought I didn’t like it. Maybe it’s because I saw Phantom of the Opera four times (under duress). And I detest the scene where Raoul is singing with a rope around his neck. He looks ridiculous. Does anybody buy this? Is it supposed to be funny?

 

Or maybe it’s because I was accused of causing a show to close after its first night, simply because I stood in the middle of a crucial scene, drunkenly muttered, “This is a steaming pile of poo,” and walked out. I was also in the middle of a row, in the middle of a packed theater.  But, in my defense, the show was really bad…

 

Or maybe, it is because I have never seen a musical in my adult life without being tipsy, drunk, pie-eyed, schnockered or asleep. There’s the rub.

 

Is it The Beatles?

For some reason, I got it in my head that we were going to see a Beatles, cover-band musical. So, when Cindy picked me up last night I came clean. I said, ” I feel I should tell you, I’m not much of a Beatles fan and I hate musical theater.” How’s that (to use some old-school lingo) for a  buzz kill? She said, “First of all, I’m not sure we can be friends if you don’t like musical theater – what about the reference to Camelot on your blog? And second, we are going to see Motown the Musical. When I asked you, you even said, ‘I love me some Motown.’ Remember?”

 

I did not remember. But it sounded like something I would say.

 

Cindy is good at seat selection and we were in the very front of the loge, sitting one in front of the other. We were directly over the stage – blocking marks and all – as if we were in the wings. We took some pre-show photos, but perching on the seat arm made us precariously top-heavy. And it was a long drop to the orchestra (talk about ruining the run of a play)…

 

I’m so excited…

 

I Love Musical Theater!

Motown the Musical is incredible. I loved every minute of the performance. And it reminded me of a conversation I had with David, where I told him I hated going to the symphony. (Was I a cretinous drunk or what?) We talked about how addiction had narrowed my interests and that recovery is about widening the path, rekindling old passions and discovering new ones. The fact is, I didn’t really know if I liked musical theater, the symphony or a host of things I thought I hated, or not. Because for so long, I experienced everything in an alcoholic haze.

 

I haven’t been to the symphony yet, but my foray into the world of musical theater was a revelation. Maybe it’s because “I love me some Motown.” But, it’s probably because I didn’t feel the urgency to quaff wine before, during and after the show. I didn’t feel anxious or angry. I didn’t get sleepy and grumpy after the intermission.

 

On the way home, I redeemed myself with Cindy. Recounting my favorite parts of the performance with total recall and suggesting I might even like to see the upcoming Wicked. I’m widening my path – rekindling old passions and discovering new ones.

 

Maybe I’ll get season tickets…

 

 

Widening the Path in Recovery

I was having a conversation with David Green the other day – we were discussing the things I might get involved in now that I live in Grand Rapids. He mentioned the symphony and I said, “Perhaps this sounds cretinous, but I hate the symphony.” Then I paused and said, “Wait a minute, maybe […]

 

 

Today I’m not drinking because life is all about discovering new passions (and I love me some Motown)…

How come you’re not drinking?

 

Comments (11)

  1. Who the hell has time to drink?
    May 6, 2017

    Would you go see a musical about an alcoholic and his efforts to recover?

    • Marilyn
      Marilyn
      May 11, 2017

      Is there such a thing? Dancing, singing, recovering alcoholics?
      XXXOOO
      M

      • Jim Flaherty
        Jun 15, 2017

        I wrote one, the book (the story) and lyrics for various songs. Have never found a composer to write the music, and then it would take some investors with deep pockets to produce it. I wrote it some years ago, when my late wife was in AA, and I thought it was the greatest “club” in the world. Still do, and it’s one of my three-times-a-week club now.

        • Marilyn
          Marilyn
          Jun 16, 2017

          You wrote an AA musical? Sounds like it would be a huge hit. So much of what I thought was “stupid” or “boring” when I was drinking, was just the things I was too distracted by alcohol to appreciate. Glad to be among the living now…
          XXXOOO
          M

  2. Lionel Guerra
    May 6, 2017

    I certainly hope that you go to see Wicked!! What a great musical!! I just saw a touring company perform 42nd Street at The Whiting and it was fantastic. You live in such a great place for all of the fine arts. Grand Rapids has a great symphony orchestra and the area gets all of the best touring shows. Take it all in, you won’t be sorry that you did. Have a great day…………
    Lionel Guerra

    • Marilyn
      Marilyn
      May 11, 2017

      I think the ballet is next – I know I like that. One theater performance at a time.
      XXXOOO
      M

  3. Ainsobriety
    May 12, 2017

    How come you're not drinking?
    I love the freedom too much
    I found a huge love for live music. Mostly heavy metal. Who knew…

    • Marilyn
      Marilyn
      May 25, 2017

      I love it. Who’d a thunk?

      XXXOOO
      M

  4. Beverly
    Jun 15, 2017

    How come you're not drinking?
    I want to see who I really am.
    Now you have me wondering. I also really detest musical theater. Seems so silly, people singing when they really should be talking. However, I do admit that I don’t think I’ve ever gone to one sober. I actually fell asleep during Phantom of the Opera – on Broadway – that my mom bought expensive tickets for. Maybe I should try it again.

    • Marilyn
      Marilyn
      Jun 15, 2017

      NO! The Phantom of the Opera is one of my most hated. I do not think it will EVER be anything I love. Even sober. However, I did rediscover other things and I did enjoy myself much more at Motown the Musical when I didn’t have to worry about getting enough to drink at intermission. The thing is, you don’t know what you’re going to love. It’s all new. And when you find things you are passionate about there are no major distractions. Like drinking before Phantom, and snagging a drink at the theater and making sure you have a shooter in the purse and standing in line at intermission (if you last that long) and insisting on stopping at an after-theater watering hole on the way home. I hated theater because it interfered with my drinking.

      Who knows, maybe singing instead of talking with be “your thing”. Creatures of the night and all that rot…
      XXXOOO
      M

  5. Jim Flaherty
    Jun 17, 2017

    Now that I’m back in the club for myself, and enjoy the benefits of all the wisdom I hear every week, am interested in my old musical idea again. Might dig it out, refresh it, and try to push it to the next level. I always thought id attract a big audience, hells bells, EVERY family has someone who SHOULD be in the club if they aren’t already.

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